Lonely in Seattle: Are you joining us on Saturday?
Free kickoff event Saturday 12/9 1-3 pm
I’m so excited to host Lonely in Seattle: Connection Games this Saturday, December 9! We’re meeting at the Capitol Hill Branch of the Seattle Public Library. Add the event to your Google calendar here.
When people talk about how hard it is to make friends, I'm kind of shocked at the simplistic advice others often give: “Volunteer. Go take classes. Get a hobby. It's not hard.”
It's condescending as hell. You go from college where your friends live down the hall… to the workplace, where your “friends” have a whole lot of invisible conditions attached. Social expectations can feel equally demanding and exhausting.
Some people make friends easily everywhere they go, and that's awesome! But even for me—someone who most people perceive as approachable, trustworthy, and kind—my own social anxiety and introversion can make it really, really hard to feel at home in new spaces. I've been in my current choir for over a year and, while I'm friendly with many people, I have yet to make a really close connection there. I haven't invested strongly in those relationships, and it didn't just happen on its own.
That's why I'm curating in-person events that are ENGINEERED to help you get past the awkward stage, and experience visceral, meaningful connection. Being in the same space isn't enough to make social ease available to everyone. What you really need is a special blend of invitation, permission, and radical curiosity. You do NOT have to go it alone, show up at a bunch of random events, and try to say the right thing to the right person at the exact right moment—then cross your fingers and hope for a new bestie. You literally get step-by-step support to see what you have in common and reach across the gaps.
So, come to the kickoff Lonely in Seattle event on Saturday. And your very first challenge, if you choose to accept it? Share the invite with a person who you'd like to get closer to. You can say something like, "Hey, it's hard to talk about this, but I've been feeling lonely lately. I think you're cool, and I'd love to connect with you more. Would you be willing to try this out with me?"
You'd be surprised at what can come from a vulnerable invitation!
I can’t wait to connect with you this weekend.
Much love,
Nat
PS. The next 2 events are already scheduled—check them out! We’ll have another free event on January 28, then a magical, unforgettable communal gathering on February 8. Spaces are limited for this spectacular dinner, so reserve your ticket now.